Adoption is a big deal

Adoption is a big deal for God. He loves kids. Little ones and big ones too. Romans 5:8 “God demonstrated his love as Father by sending Jesus to live and die for our sins while we were still rebellious.” Ephesians 1:5: “God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.” Adoption is how I get my identity as a child of God and how you can get yours too. God revealed himself to us as Father and adopts us as loved children, if we accept the peace he offers. Some of us prefer war and rebellion, but somehow God softens our hearts, maybe through our struggles. OKAY mostly through our struggles.
Adoption is a big deal for me too. I am so glad that I gave in and allowed Jesus to take over. He continues to show me that he alone is sufficient to handle my worries over finances, family, and my inadequacies. Jesus has truly become enough for me. Each day I am reminded that He alone is the one who can, through me, be the husband that my wife needs, the father that my kids need, the leader that my church needs, and the friend that my neighbors need. If that seems weird, please understand that God desires to live his life through us and make it fulfilling and filled with peace.
What powers you through the inevitable struggles of life? Can you relate to the idea of adoption spiritually or relationally?

hold on for a ride

The adoptive journey is complex and wonderful and full of a wide range of emotions. This of course applies to all marriages, but our journey was through adoption. Keeping your marriage intact is difficult, but absolutely essential. I’m all about my marriage to Heather and that stays primary throughout the emotional struggle of adoption and raising the kiddos. Nothing is more important than the marriage relationship in providing the stability you have promised to provide in adoption. I tell the kids all the time that I’m going to be with their mom long after they are gone from home and she is the most important.

Heather and I consider ourselves teammates in this endeavor. We have faced a lot of trials together. Wait. . . it seems we are always facing trials. Often times an argument puts you “face to face,” but we have decided to try to keep the problems out in front of us. Facing the problem “arm in arm” keeps us from pointing fingers at each other and imagining that the teammate is the problem.

We are forever grateful for our group of Christian friends and family who hang with us. They encourage us and provide practical support. They are just as important to us today, now that we are raising these kids, as they were in our process of expanding our family. They prayed for us, paid for a date night AND babysat the kids. They cry with us and surround us. Thanks to all of you Bauer supporters.

How do you keep close when the emotions threaten to tear you apart?

why adopt? well…

After a struggle with infertility, Heather and I looked at the investment of tens of thousands of dollars toward fertility treatments and weighed that against the cost of adoption. I was reluctant at first because I wanted to see how handsome my children would be, based on my wife’s good looks. It was pretty natural of course to want to produce children to carry on the Bauer legacy, but Heather and I talked about her early conviction that she would like to adopt. That began to grow on both of us until our minds were set on adoption. After adopting our first boy from Guatemala, Heather had surgery for endometriosis (the presumed cause of the infertility) and the doctor gave us the news that if we wanted to get pregnant, this was the time. It took us two seconds of looking in each other’s eyes to confirm that we wanted to adopt more kiddos. I think the way the conversation went was that, on our pay scale, we would be able to handle raising about one more kid. At this point, we were well aware that there were kids out there who were already alive and on a life trajectory and we couldn’t handle the thought of limiting the space in our family by giving birth to a child. That’s when we knew that adoption had become more than an option it was a conviction from God. This conviction has obviously grown to be a trademark of the Bauer family.